Boundary Violations
According to Pia Mellody (1992)
External Physical Boundary Violations:
- Standing too close to a person without his/her permission
- Touching a person without his/her permission
- Getting into a persons personal belongings and living space such as ones purse, wallet, mail or closet
- Listening to a persons personal conversations or telephone conversations without his/her permisssion
- Not allowing a person to have privacy or violating a persons right to privacy
- Exposing others to physical illness due to your having a contagious disease
- Smoking around nonsmokers in an identified nonsmoking area
Sexual Boundary Violations:
- Touching a person sexually without his/her permission
- Not negotiating when, where, and how to engauge in sexual activity
- Demanding unsafe sexual practices
- Exposing oneself to others without their consent
- Leaving pornography where others who do not want to see it may see it
- Staring or looking at another person lustily (voyeurism) without his/her permission
- Exposing visually and/or auditorily others to your sexual activities without their consent
Internal Boundary Violations:
- Yelling and screaming
- Name calling
- Ridiculing a person
- Lying
- Breaking a commitment
- Patronizing a person
- Telling a person how he/she should be or what he/she should do (negative control)
- Being sarcastic
- Shaming a person