The Inner JourneyFinding Peace Within

Boundary Statements

Boundaries · Setting boundariesClass 3

External Boundary (My Body)

Physical Boundary

  • I have a right to control distance and touch with you, and you have a right to control distance and touch with me.

Sexual Boundary

  • I have a right to control if, when, where, and how I am sexual with another person, and you have the same right.

Internal Boundary (Thoughts, Feelings, Behavior)

  • I am responsible for what I think, what I feel, and what I choose to do or not do. You are responsible for what you think, feel, and do or don’t do.
  • If I am in a relationship with you, I am responsible for noting the impact of my thoughts, feelings, and behavior on you. I then can decide if I will adjust to make our relationship more comfortable. ( This statement does not hold in a victim-offender situation. If I am authentically offended, my reaction is not about me and my history, it is about your abuse )

From Breaking Free by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller